You’re Not the Victim. You’re the Creator.

Let’s just get straight to it:
You are not a victim of your life. You are the damn creator of it.
Read that again. And then again. Because it took me a long time to get that.

For a while, I was stuck in a loop. A “Why is this happening to me?” loop. I couldn’t understand how I was trying so hard to be a good person, always looking out for others, staying positive, doing the right thing—and still finding myself in painful, unfair, honestly fucked-up situations.
I would sit in my sadness, in the stories, in the guilt, in the “I didn’t deserve this” narrative. And yeah, I’ve always been optimistic by nature—but even that can become a mask when you’re using positivity to bypass your pain.

The truth is, I held myself back. I gave my power away.
I let the things that happened define me, shape how I showed up, and keep me small.

But here's the plot twist:
I realized I had the power to rewire my brain. And you do too.

We all do. Neuroplasticity is real. The way you think, the lens you see life through, the story you tell yourself—it can all shift. And when you shift that? Everything changes.

I’ve done a lot of work (like, a lot).
And one of the biggest shifts I’ve made is choosing not to live in a victim mindset anymore.
Even the trauma I went through, even the abuse I experienced—it doesn’t own me. It happened, yes. But I get to decide what it means. And I choose to believe that it’s all for my greatest good. That every part of my journey is working for me, not against me.

And let me be super clear:
This isn’t about pretending bad things aren’t bad.
This isn’t about excusing anyone or anything.
This is about knowing that you get to decide what defines you.
That resentment, that shame, that heavy weight you’re still carrying? You’re holding onto it. That person isn’t doing it to you anymore—you are.

So here’s the truth that changed everything for me:
You can choose something else.
You can decide that whatever happened doesn’t get to have power over you anymore. You can stop reacting to it. You can stop giving it energy. You can be indifferent. You can let it go. You can say, “That was awful. But it doesn’t get to take one more thing from me.”

You get to grow through what you go through. But only if you choose to.
Otherwise, you stay stuck. That’s the hard truth.
So… what are you choosing?

Because this life you want? The joy, the freedom, the expansion, the peace?
It’s yours. But only if you claim it.

So step into your power. Step into who you actually are.
Not who people told you to be. Not who trauma tried to turn you into.
You.

Let’s fucking go.